5 Tips to improve your Work from Home experience

5 Tips to improve your Work from Home experience

If you’re working from home, you’d agree that the hours are not fixed anymore, sometimes it gets tiring, the exhaustion gets to you at the end of the day and if there’s anything you’d do to change the mood, you would.

Thinking of that, one of the things that occurred to me is that when you’re on your laptop all day long, whether you’re on your bed or on your desk, or even switching between them, what’s also happening is that you’re hooked onto the screen until you get that break.

However, there are a few tidbits here and there that can help you to take care of your mind and body whilst putting in the work that can help you at the end of the day, and doing them every day will only benefit you on a macro level too.

Not to forget, work from home will be a norm for now and for the future, so it’d be better to pick up some beneficial habits for a better outcome.

So here they are –

  • Stand Up & Stretch

Whenever you can, as many times as you can, stand up for a minute or two at least, to open up your body and to allow the blood to circulate.

When you sit for a long amount of time, due to zero movement of the body, the muscles get rigid, which further leads to body restlessness and fatigue.


  • Hydrate Yourself

Even though you might have kept a bottle of water alongside you, in the flow of work, you might become unaware of drinking water in periods of time.

That further leads to dehydration in the body, ultimately resulting in lower energy levels in the body, more irritability, also causes lethargy, weight gain and headaches.


  • Eat Nuts/ Fruits

Instead of binge eating stuff that does not benefit the body, keep a small box of nuts beside you, on the table.

You can then have a nut or two in a while or even a fruit when you feel like eating, and that is the best form of nutrients that you could put in your body.

This, of course, is during the day and is not a substitute for your meals.


  • Maintain A Schedule

You’d think that the day is already running loose with abnormal work timings and not having a relaxation time, why would I want to make a schedule and make the day more rigid?

Well, that’s exactly why!

Because having a schedule would ensure that you get to do the other activities of your day as well, including your workout, your meals, your relaxation time as well as balancing work.


  • Practice Well-being

At this time, when you’re home and also working constantly, it is extremely important to practice your well-being, both mentally and physically.

From taking a few minute breaks here and there to practising mediation to doing workouts to taking a few walks whenever possible, everything constitutes as a part of well-being which keeps you in check.


Hope these help you better your days, ultimately making your weeks and months better as well.

It’s always the small changes which make a huge impact and change things around.

Mirror Mirror

Mirror Mirror

Mirror Mirror

Answer me this question

For I don’t know the answer myself

I want to change

But I don’t know who will bring this change

The mirror says

Look within me

For I always showed you the answer

It is you alone

Who can bring change

For no one else has the power to do so

Every human is different

Every human is different

Every human being, irrespective of their caste, creed, age, sex and DNA, are different.

In terms of what?

Their journeys.

Their goals.

Their thoughts.

Their emotions.

Their problems.

Their accomplishments.

Literally, everything is different for everyone.

Then why is it that one compares them with someone else, one aspires to be like someone else, one says I’m just not like the other person.

How are these things even possible when every human on this planet is different from each other.

Each unique in their own way.

The system doesn’t work that way because the system won’t be able to operate if everyone started thinking that way and that’s the problem we don’t realize.

However, if there’s one takeaway from this, that we should take for the rest of our lives is this…

Every human is different.

It’s all connected.

It’s all connected.

What We Think
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What We Say
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How we Act
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What we Eat
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What we consume
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What type of people do you attract around you
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What goals do you want to pursue
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Why do opinions bother me
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Why do people compare
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Why do people have egos
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Why are people happy with materialistic things
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Where does the real happiness lie
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Why can’t you be happy right now
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What is my purpose in life
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What is life all about

It’s all connected.

Hold On or Let Go

Hold On or Let Go

Everything in life

Thoughts

Emotions

Words

Opinions

People

Purpose

Service

Passion

Everything is something that you either hold on to or you let go of it.

It’s more of understanding whether that certain something is adding to your life or taking away something.

If it’s adding, then it’s a definite hold.

However, if its the other way round, if its taking away something – anything – energy, peace, calmness, then its time to let go it.

It could be easy, it could also be difficult, but that choice needs to be taken so you could be more balanced, more peaceful, instead of holding onto things that weigh you down.

Not just outward, inward too.

Not just outward, inward too.

What we think

What we feel

What we eat

What we drink

What exercise we do

It not only has an effect on our exterior actions, that is the words we speak, the work we do, the things we experience,

But, it has an effect on our inner body too.

Did you know that?

Every emotion we feel releases an energy of that sort in the body too.

Every thing we eat and drink is how our body processes it, and whether it is good for the body or not, then has an outcome accordingly.

Whether we exercise or not, not just has an effect on how “slim” we become, but it has an effect on our body processes too.

Everything we do has an effect, not just on the outward, but inward too.

We usually don’t think about how it affects our body, our mind and our soul.

If we become a tiny bit more mindful than usual, then we can start taking care of our mind, body and soul, at least from now on, if not before.

Constant Learning

Constant Learning

Our learning doesn’t end at schools and colleges, on the contrary, its never-ending.

Whether it’s a conscious choice or not, one is constantly learning, in some form or the other, everyday.

Consciously, the learning could be in the form of audio, video or text consumption or through conversations or when you walk on uncharted territory.

Subconsciously, learning happens through mistakes or through experiences – in your personal and professional lives.

Nonetheless, the bottom line is one is constantly learning everyday.

Whether by choice or not.

P. S. By choice is always better because you get to control and upgrade yourself on your own terms, rather through things happening in your life which aren’t in your control at all.

This learning, of all kinds, leads to growth in your life. The growth which leads to a different version of yours than before.

Whether a better version or not, depends on your perspective.

Is your phone charged?

Is your phone charged?

If I asked you, is your phone charged right now?

You’d know the answer.

What is the phone battery percentage right now?

You’d know the answer.

Be it your phone, or your headphones, your laptop, the point is that you’re aware when it comes to these items that you use on a daily basis?

However, what about you? What is your battery percentage right now? How long will you last before charging yourself again?

Do you know the answers to these questions?

We often focus on external items that control our lives, but forget to take a inner look that we actually have the control over.

Do I need to upgrade my battery power?

That can be done.

Do I need to recharge myself now?

That can be done too.

Is the battery getting low?

You can be aware of that too.

When you’re self-aware about yourself, the perspective towards looking at yourself and the outside world changes.

You now want to use that battery efficiently, you don’t want to drain it out, right?

You can then smartly utilise that power on things that matter or the things that interest you, just like your smartphone.

Say ‘Today is going to be a great day’

Say ‘Today is going to be a great day’

How often does it happen that we look back at our day when it’s almost over and based on what happened do we then decide whether it was a good day or not?

How about we take the control about what happens?

How about we control the day and not let the day control us?

How do we do that?

Before you sleep at night, let that last thought be ‘Tomorrow is going to be a great day.’

When you wake up in the morning, let the first thought be and say it to yourself, ‘Today is going to be a Great Day.’

Set that precedent by yourself to yourself.

By saying this, you have set the tone for the day, you have set the pattern of your thoughts, you have set the mood for the day.

Now you won’t let the results decide the outcome of the day, but your actions will.

Say ‘Today is going to a Great Day‘ and experience the magic.

P. S. This is not a wand spell that will wave its magic at you, but it’s more of a mantra that you use to get back the control of your day.

The pressure we put on ourselves

The pressure we put on ourselves

I think you may have noticed this as well, and let me know if you agree with this thought!

There’s an enormous amount of pressure that we put on ourselves!

The pressure to achieve a goal, to complete the set tasks, to fulfill an obligation, to complete something within a set time, to impress someone or any other kinds of pressure one puts on themselves.

To top it off, it’s all self created, the pressure, no one is pressuring you to do so or even cares about it.

That’s the bottom line.

Because we don’t realize this, we keep feeling that pressure and live day after day and keep doing something, out of pressure and not out of enjoyment.

If we change that scenario, then there would be no pressure at all. Whatever is done, is then done out of satisfaction, fulfillment and happiness.

Too much baggage

Too much baggage

Do you feel that pressure on your shoulders?

I think its because, all of us, carry a lot of baggage along with us.

Wherever we go.

Baggage of emotions.

Baggage of opinions.

Baggage of negativity.

Everyday it gets heavier and heavier.

If that bag is not emptied bit by bit, it’ll reach a weight where it wouldn’t be possible to carry it anymore.

More than that, it would actually stop you from moving forward.

Let’s have a look at what’s inside that bag and try emptying it bit by bit.

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Plans change.

Goals change.

Thoughts change.

Behaviors change.

When you walk that path of upgrading yourself, a lot of things start changing in your life.

Although, on this path, sometimes things don’t work out too.

It happens.

No one is perfect.

At such a point in life, remember to not be too hard on yourself.

Because, that makes it worse.

That will make you more negative.

Accept that sometimes things are out of your control or it was not meant to be.

That is (one of) the lesson(s) you learn when you walk upon the path of self-improvement.

The First Lesson Nature Teaches Us

The First Lesson Nature Teaches Us

Nature teaches us a lot of lessons, there’s legit so much to learn. However, do you know the first and the most important lesson that it teaches us?

Nature gives.

It gives and gives!

And asks nothing in return.

It’s purpose is to serve.

That’s the ultimate lesson to learn.

The world we live in, everyone knows how to take. Even if someone gives, there’s always some intent to take in some way or possible.

That pure intention of give, give and give is rare, extremely rare.

But, also our purpose.

Which, coincidentally also gives us happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment.

The answers lie here.

The answers lie here.

We keep searching for answers.

If we can get the answers, it’ll be a lot easier to move onto the next step.

We don’t ask questions, but that’s a different issue altogether.

Today, let’s just focus on the answers.

Where are they?

Where can we find them?

The answers lie in the

Silence.

When its silent is when you can hear the answers the loudest.

It is then when you can hear only what you needed to hear.

No inner noise.

No exterior noise.

Just you, the silence and the answers.

Survival

Survival

Over the years, surrounded with the usual day-to-day problems of life, everyone thought, could we survive this or could we survive that.

Then those problems would pass and we shifted to the next set of problems, thinking them to be life-altering.

However, those could be addressed as struggles, but they never really were life-altering.

What is life-altering?

This.

What we are currently facing.

The coronavirus crisis.

This is something that the majority of the population has seen for the first time, we have never seen a lockdown like this before too.

This is all about survival now.

If we can survive this, then we can survive anything in life ahead.

Everything in the future will then be compared to this crisis, if we survived this, then is that problem even relevant to us!?

Don’t feel guilty!

Don’t feel guilty!

This time that we have, can be used productively! It can be used for our self-growth, both personally and professionally! And with so much time in our hands, we can do a lot, literally a lot, that couldn’t be done before.

However, this is what I want you to know.

Don’t feel guilty if you wanted to have a productive day and you couldn’t.

Don’t feel guilty if you had prepared a lot of tasks for the day and you couldn’t complete them.

Don’t feel guilty if you wanted to take a day or two days or three days break and just cool off.

It’s when we started feeling worse about ourselves, is when things go wrong. It becomes negative.

Those negative thoughts tend to become a voice inside your head for everything.

I realized this and wanted to convey the same for anyone reading this and trying to make the most of the lockdown that is going on.

Don’t feel guilty!

You shall not Pass!

You shall not Pass!

Negativity • Bad Vibes • Haters • Drama • Problems — we are surrounded by these things, all the time, in one way or another.

We let these elements bring us down, we feel bothered by them, and our lives are affected every day because of each of these elements.

You know what?

It’s time we take a stand and say to all the negativity, bad vibes, to all the haters, to the unnecessary drama, and to all the problems -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

YOU SHALL NOT PASS

Say this to your mind, stand with positivity around you and in this process, also learn to train your mind accordingly!

You are always in control.

You are always in control.

You’re always in control of your thoughts, your actions, your behaviour, your emotions, your habits, your goals and your happiness.

There’s always an external factor in play, an external factor – at times bigger than you and your life.

Can you let it influence you or your thoughts or your emotions?

Once you set the baseline, that I’m the one in control of my thoughts, then no external factor can influence your thought process.

That same logic is then applied to your emotions, your habits, more importantly, to your happiness as well.

How do you be in control?

With practice. Understanding the difference when you are in control and when you are not.

Understanding the factors that bring the change in you.

Pushing yourself everytime you notice that change.

That requires self-awareness as well as the will power that you do want to do so.

The power to bring change comes from within.

It’s always up to you, and remember that you’re always in control.

A common level of Humanity!

A common level of Humanity!

How majority of humans used to behave, almost until a month back to now everyone being the same – more or less, and hopefully we make these changes a part of our life, instead of it just being a temporary phase of life.

Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons, don’t you think so?

No more materialistic comparisons,

no more competition,

no more ego,

doesn’t matter who you are,

doesn’t matter how rich or poor you are,

Life has brought everyone to a common level of humanity, where everyone wants to just stay alive.

Everyone is fighting together and wants to come out of this together.

This level of humanity should be appreciated and should be taken forward as well, because when we walk together, we grow together and we can tackle our problems together!

Do you over-think?

Do you over-think?

We’re all victims of overthinking, aren’t we?

Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, there’s no stopping it.

We love thinking, we assume it’s productive, which it is but then we to drop down to a layer of theories and imagination that takes up too much of our time.

The problem could be a ‘Level 1’ issue, but our overthinking will take it to ‘Level 20’ in our mind.

However, is there a way to stop it?

Not entirely, there’s no easy way out.

What can we do?
– You need to train your mind, day in day out; it’s a long process to reach a point where you consciously become aware of your thought/s and when to divert from it. This comes in the form of meditation.

– Start by rethinking what you just thought and whether it was worth it or not, that process will start making you aware of your thoughts.

– Have a specific time allotted for the deep thought process when you think about your future plans/ tasks/ actions/ current problems etc (time wise/ work wise/ action wise) and not to proceed down that path at any different time.

– Apart from what you can do internally, what helps externally is execution. Execute at a level where you don’t have the time to think. Planning and scheduling, yes, but with execution a time will come when there won’t be enough time to overthink anything.

– Also, what helps the best is music, another form of mediation. Music has the power to sway our minds from any situation and not let it distract us. What are the occasions when you start over thinking? Substitute those occasions with music and see the difference.

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It’s a gradual move; neither of these methods bring you immediate results, but you always start with step 1 and build it from there.

Health, First.

Health, First.

There is nothing, literally nothing in life that comes ahead of your health.

There can never be anything important for which you could risk your health.

You have to take care of it and also, the health of everyone else around you (not to forget, your actions shouldn’t lead to others’ health getting affected in the first place)

If your health isn’t right, then what is even the point of anything else for which you were risking it.

Do you understand what I’m saying?

The time of Self-Improvement!

The time of Self-Improvement!

Have you ever focused on
– your thoughts?
– your habits?
– your ideas?
– your goals?
– your food habits?
– your hobbies?
– the content you consume?
– your mental and physical exercise?
– practicing gratitude?
– the skills you want to learn?

One would usually say, they are busy with the hustle and bustle of their life, i.e. work, that they don’t have time for all these things.

Ain’t that the truth?

Well, with the time of social distancing and self-isolation, also came the time of

Self-Improvement

Yes, you read that right, this is a better time than ever, to improve yourself.

In your day-to-day life, along with work, you’re also surrounded with stress, worries, deadlines and over-thinking.

Guess what? Poof, none of that is following for the most of you. Agreed?

Why not use this time then to answer those questions above and more that you’d have on your mind?

Why not make a list of items that you’ve always wanted to do to work on your inner self?

This is a time you have, where can work on these things and not get distracted by anything else.

It might only change you for the better, and create a better life path for you, you never know!

#SelfImprovement

This is the best time to self-audit!

This is the best time to self-audit!

During this phase of self-isolation, when people have nothing but time and patience with them, there has never been a perfect set-up to audit yourself.

What do I think about?

What are my habits?

Where does my time usually go, in my day to day life?

How much time do I spend on my smartphone?

Where is my life at, right now?

Am I satisfied with my mental/ physical/ financial/ work life?

Can I better my finance process?

Is there something I can change to move forward in my work life?

Is my mind where I want it to be or is it hurting me more?

Do I usually eat the right type of food that should be put in my body?

Am I better than what I was yesterday?

This is the time to ask yourself these questions and with ample time in your hands, you can think about it, find answers within yourself and make the necessary changes.

How to make those changes?

Well, you have time and absolutely no need for shortcuts to make long-term changes.

You can learn, you can experiment, you can research, you can listen to the experts in the particular field (wherever you’re having problems).

You can pave the path ahead for you, yourself.

However, the choice to do so, is in your hands.

This is the best time to self-audit.

Things not in your Control

Things not in your Control

If there’s a lesson to be learnt here, it’s that no matter how much you prepare, no matter where you are in the life graph, there are times when some things are out of your control and you cannot do anything about it.

You have to roll with the flow; your overthinking or worrying or stress won’t change anything at all.

Its just how things are, and life brings us such moments from time to time to make us realize that.

All we can then do, is to work on things that are actually in our control – you know what’s in your control – your mindset/ your thoughts/ your habits – you can work on them/ make mistakes/ master yourself at it and know that when things spiral out of control, these things in my control are my assets which no one can steal from me.

Kind is the new Cool.

Kind is the new Cool.

A while back, what was cool? Having an attitude defined coolness; being popular defined coolness; being better than others felt cool.

It was a perceptive reality we lived in.

However, especially with the rise of social media and communication becoming easier than ever amongst individuals from all over the world, also led to the rise in the talk of mental health.

Which was good.

However, along with mental health, also the talk of values and beliefs and the baseline of what it means to be a good human. Amongst other important values, it brought kindness to the limelight, where people who were kind never thought it is something to be spoken about and the ones who didn’t understand its implementation in their lives now saw a difference between their current perception and the difference kindness brings in theirs and the lives of the people around them.

What is cool now?

Well, simply put, Kindness is the new Cool.

If you’re kind towards yourself, if you’re kind with your deeds and words, if you’re kind towards others, you’re cool.

#SpreadTheWord

What To Do in Self-Isolation?

What To Do in Self-Isolation?

Amidst the coronavirus pandemic, a lot of the people out there, would willingly or unwillingly, be in self-isolation.

Self-isolation does not mean you’ve got the virus, but it also serves as a beforehand precautionary measure.

However, people’s day-to-day lives have always been surrounded with being in the office, for most part of their days. Now, with self-isolation, and if you’re working from home or not, it’s more than obvious that you’d end up wondering what to do with your days now.

Sure, you’d end up spending it on leisurely activities, such as watching films or tv series/ surfing the internet, but you don’t know how long the isolation may continue and how long would those same activities interest you.

Through this blog post, I want to send a different kind of a message, for the people out there, with what can you do in self-isolation (now or anytime later, in life too).

Self-isolation is quite a beautiful time in our lives, sure the timing of it may not be right at the moment, but, in general terms, for sure.

It’s a time which can be used to reflect upon yourself, know what you’re doing right, how has the past been for you, what steps can you take to change your future.

It’s a time to retrospect, to learn, to grow, to build yourself, to upgrade your skills, and also, at the same time, to relax, to chill, to calm your mind, to calm yourself, to get away from everything else in life.

This time of self-isolation, is for your mind.

You have the choice to use it wisely, every step you take decides whether that time is spent in an enjoyable manner or not.

Here’s a list of things you can do/ work on (if you’re ready to spend this time on yourself) –

A. Meditate

Any and all kinds of meditation, is good for you. Meditation can be done in various forms, and you can do it anyhow you want,

In the form of music, a walk, swimming, driving around, reading – it has been found that different activities can introduce a different meditative vibe within you – so whatever you feel is right for you.

However, the basic form, that we all know of, and the best way to meditate is to sit in an upright position, close your eyes, and focus. Focus on keeping your mind silent for a while. Focus on what your mind tells you at this time. Focus on what the body tells you at this time.

You can start with a few minutes and build it up from there.

B. Read

Another essential way of building yourself, your skillset, your mind is to read. The power of reading has innumerable advantages, but the key is to pick a genre/ style of writing which interests you. Pick a book which will bring value to you, which will make you think differently – once you start, you can build that habit as you read and in no time, it’ll become a part of your day.

C. Upgrade Your Skills

You can use this time of self-isolation to also upgrade your skills. There are courses, lessons, guides on the internet, that you can use at your disposal to strengthen yourself.

If you find a certain field of interest fascinating, if you want to build up on a certain skill, if you want to level up, you can spend that time on doing so.

It is, at the end, up to you, to schedule your day in a way, that can help you grow in every aspect of life.

D. Practice Gratitude

One of the most important things in life, is to practice gratitude. It is something that has to be practiced by yourself, every day, every hour, it is something that you have to feel.

With the power of gratitude, you learn to enjoy life for what it is, you learn the importance of life, you learn to enjoy the minute things in life, you learn to enjoy the process and everything that you do.

It is something that we often forget amidst the race of life. However, once you start spending the self-isolation time wisely, you then start to enjoy the beauty of life.

E. Practice Journaling

When you work on self-growth, another important element of that process is Journaling.

Not everyone is able to observe their life – their day from a non-judgemental point of view, that is the time when this wondrous activity comes into play.

When you write about your day, about your routine, about your process, your goals, your vision, you’re able to introspect your life in a way you haven’t able to before.

It gives you a different perspective, a different thought process, you then get a glimpse of your life and when you make those necessary changes on paper, you feel the power to do so practically as well.

That power is also felt when you constantly write about what you want and are then able to convert that written energy into bringing it to life.

F. Eat Food that’s good for the mind and the body

When you’re by yourself, when you are in complete power of choosing what you want to eat, when you feel every bite of what you eat – with time, you become conscious of your eating habits.

You tend to realize what is good for you, what isn’t. Whether that food is an asset for your body or a liability.

With self-isolation, also comes this consciousness – which is again lost, in the race of life. When this happens, you start making the right decisions in life, and also with your eating habits.

You now want to eat what’s good for you, for your body, for your mind. You will ultimately make the right choices, you don’t need anyone to tell you what’s right to eat and what’s not.

G. Limit your Smartphone Usage

By now, if you’re following all the pointers, you’ll know the importance of self-consciousness, self-growth and how that time is then consumed for other activities.

One of them is the smartphone usage, used for different purposes, but mostly for entertainment. Now the question arises, how much of that usage is bringing value to you.

Whether that usage of content is helping you grow, or whether that short phase of contentment is enough to trump long-term happiness.

That question and this thought process is enough for you to understand how would you like to use your smartphones and what kind of changes are you now looking to make.

H. Consume news for information, not absorption

Another important element, which happens when you’re by yourself, is the consumption of news.

The explanation is to be up-to-date with everything that is going on.

The problem arises, when instead of consuming that information, you get absorbed by it. You let it sway your emotions, your thoughts and now your actions or words are defined by what the news sources tell you. You are not in control.

The working of the news sector depends on views, and the more controversial they make it, the better for them. What we, as consumers, fail to realize that it is also playing with our minds, our thoughts and our actions.

The better way is to, just consume it and not get absorbed by it. Again, this is better said than done – but with practice and mindfulness, you can then differentiate between the two processes.

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These are some of the ways where self-isolation can do wonders for you, you can use it to your advantage and help grow yourself and your life.

Sure, these things sound serious at first, but when you make it a part of your life, they seem extremely enjoyable and obviously, beneficial to you as well.

However, its not always about working on yourself and working on your self-growth.

That alone time can be used for different purposes as well, as long as you balance your time properly.

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You can use your time on watching some good movies and tv series out there, it sounds a bit ironical to what was said above, but if you watch the good ones, there’s a lot of value addition as well.

Plus, entertainment is entertainment. The key is to be conscious with your time management and not forget what time it is, with non-valuable time-consuming activities.

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Before I end, let me also take this opportunity to highlight another important factor for a lot of you, who will be reading this.

If you aren’t content/ satisfied with your day-to-day, you can also take advantage of this self-isolation time in building your side hustle.

A side hustle which interests you, which you feel passionate about and take this time to learn about it, to build it, work on it and ultimately introduce it to the market.

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Without realizing the importance of self-isolation, most of us generally see it as, “Oh, we can’t do this, we can’t do that”.

However, once you realize its advantages, you then know how you can make it work for yourself.

Sure, I’ll say this again, the timing of this forced self-isolation (due to coronavirus) may not be right – but, you can use it to your advantage.

Once things become alright, instead of getting back to the running around lifestyle from before, you can still use this self-isolation time then and use it for your benefit.

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P. S. If you’re happy with where you are in life, with what you do, you can continue to do. This post is for those who want to learn, grow, be happy in life altogether, not just at work and are not able to turn things around, with the way their life is currently running.

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If we aren’t connected on Instagram, let’s connect – @rth24

9 out of 10.

9 out of 10.

We work; we try; we experiment; we fail; we succeed; we learn.

Although, do you know what happens?

9 out of 10 times things may not happen the way we expected it to.

And that’s okay!

That’s the beauty of life!

Life doesn’t give you always what you wanted…

However,

It’s that one time when you succeed, you get what you wanted, you reach your expectations.

That’s the one you got to remember.

That one pushes you to try another 10 times, out of which, yet again 9 out of 10 times things might not go your way.

#TheGameOfLife

To the point.

To the point.

Whenever it comes to conveying something, either in the form of writing, speaking or any form of communication, the best way to convey it is being to the point.

There is certainly no need to stretch out a topic because time is of the essence – for you and for the one who’s consuming your content.

If it is short and sweet, and yet to the point, it’s a win-win situation for everyone. Isn’t it?

Life is full of Colours!

Life is full of Colours!

What is life, if not full of colours?

Every colour representing something beautiful about life. Each bringing its own set of joy, happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment.

We experience such beautiful moments in our lifetime, right from living life each day to spending it with our loved ones to receiving food on the table to the opportunities we receive, our life provides us with quite a lot of such and more beautiful moments every day.

Only that instead of cherishing them, we pressurize ourselves with our wants and goals; and amidst all of this, forget to enjoy the colours of life.

On this occasion of colours, wishing you a Happy Holi! #2020

5 Positives and 1 Negative

5 Positives and 1 Negative

This is the most common reason most of us drop out of something we’re interested in, we get disappointed, we feel disturbed.

It’s all because of this one reason.

It’s called 5 Positives and 1 Negative.

Do you have any idea what I’m talking about?

Let me explain my perspective on this topic and you let me know whether you agree or not.

Whenever we do something in life, could be w.r.t. anything.

Literally, anything.

What happens after is the issue.

People meet, people discuss, people share their opinions about that something with you.

Now it always boils down to this very situation.

Whilst sharing their opinions, usually, you’ll get a lot of love, support, positive feedback, which also includes constructive criticism.

You’ll be happy after hearing/reading to all of this.

P. S. This could be face-to-face with people you know, it could be with friends and family, it could be online, on comments or groups, you get the picture.

However, here’s when things take a turn.

Amidst all of this, you get that one negative opinion as well.

Its a part and parcel of the equation.

One negative opinion which revolves around, “Why are you doing this?” “What are you going to get out of this?” “This is not even important” and various such opinions.

These opinions usually take a toll on you.

This is what I’d like to call 5 Positives and 1 Negative.

Where, in every situation, you’ll notice five positive approaches and one negative approach.

And that one negative approach overpowers the entire equation and that’s where you end up focusing.

Not the other 5 or 500 or 5 million positive comments or opinions that you received.

As a usual approach to life, we end up focusing on that one negative, it eats us up.

Why that negative? How can we change that? Was the person right?

And that’s where the problem lies.

That’s what we need to change.

Speak about this issue, make everyone aware and shun that negative voice altogether.

What more can be done?

Well, ultimately, the approach should be to enjoy the process. Enjoy why we are doing that certain something.

Be grateful for all the love and support and criticism, but altogether, do it for yourself, for the love of it.

So, as a result, nothing affects you at all.

Our Mind is so Unique

Our Mind is so Unique

Our mind is so unique and can be used for hundreds of thousands of different things!

We control it.

We can use it to our advantage.

Everything that we do, in our life, in our day, all begins from the mind.

You tell your mind what you want to do next, and it does that for you.

Be it controlling your body functions for a certain task to controlling your thoughts to focus on a specific topic.

Everything begins from the mind.

We shouldn’t let it overpower us; but we should overpower it – use it a tool to live life, to enjoy life, to be happy in life, to grow in life. Its all linked with the mind.

Focus!

Negative Moments in the Micro

Negative Moments in the Micro

We all face negative moments in the micro!

Yes, we all do!

No one has a perfect life! Don’t even have that illusion!

Now that we have that cleared up, these minute negative moments during the day could happen due to various reasons.

Usually, because things didn’t turn out the way we expected and now we’re in dismay!

Although, here’s the issue.

When these minute, different moments build up, they make you feel that you can’t do this, you can’t do that.

Because of such thoughts, the other results in the day-to-day overturn too.

It’s a cause and effect scenario here!

These moments, ultimately, lead to a loss in confidence.

Resulting in macro negatives in life.

However…

How can you not let this happen?

How can you change the process?

Well, you can’t stop the thoughts or the moments from happening. It’s a part of life.

However, what you can do is, nip it in the bud.

What does that mean?

When that first negative moment happens, either as a thought or an action or a moment, you cannot let it affect your life.

Sure, you can retrospect about it.

But, don’t let it bother your mind.

Don’t let it overshadow your day.

Don’t let it overcome the positive things happening in your life.

At these times, you overpower these situations with positivity.

That’s the answer.

Perspective – Gratitude – Empathy are the answers.

Sure, it’s easier said than done. But, practice makes it perfect.

One day at a time.

Nonetheless, negative moments do happen, all you can do is tackle them the right way and see the greener side of the grass.

Enjoying It?

Enjoying It?

No matter what you do, at the moment, in life – micro or macro, the bottom line always comes down to this one point — are you enjoying it?

Are you enjoying doing what you’re doing? That goal? That task? That work? That lifestyle? That relationship?

That one question is applied to everything in life.

Are you enjoying it?

Alone with your Thoughts!

Alone with your Thoughts!

If you want to live life,

If you want to grow,

If you want to succeed,

If you want to be happy,

You have to learn to be alone with your thoughts!


Your thoughts convert into questions you didn’t know you wanted to ask yourself.

Your thoughts convert into answers you didn’t know you could answer!

Your thoughts open you up; show you the path; get you of the rut you may be in – all answers lead to you being alone with your thoughts and listening to them and understanding them.


The problem is people can’t be alone with themselves; even when they are, they aren’t alone alone.

You get what I’m saying?

One tends to end up on the social media platforms, watching a video or maybe productively reading a book or listening to a podcast (maybe).

However, you still aren’t alone with your thoughts!

Most of the times, people are scared to be.

They don’t know how to do so!

They don’t know what will happen!


Try it!

If you don’t try, you won’t learn, you won’t experience the results.


Your thoughts are so powerful, they can make you or break you.

Learn to be alone with your thoughts || Learn to control them and focus on the topics you want to think about. (but that’s another topic for another day)

Have Patience

Have Patience

We are always in a rush to chase something or the other in life.

And, we want it now! Not later, now!

If you put in the efforts or the work today, the results should appear by tomorrow! That’s become the common mentality now.

We have forgotten the word ‘patience.’

“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” – Aristotle.

In order to enjoy life,
in order to enjoy what we want or need,
in order to enjoy the process
– we need to start being patient.

That’s the only answer with which we can be
happy now;
enjoy life and
be satisfied.

If not, then there would be just the rush of wanting or chasing one thing after the other, not having the desired results, being left with disappointments and unhappiness.

The choice is yours – be patient with life and enjoy everything that you do or just the opposite.

#PatiencePaysOff

See the Good.

See the Good.

Good things happen in our lives and some not so good things happen in our lives.

Depends on how you define not so good, could be with respect to your day, your year, your work, your relationships, or just life in general.

However, the choice to see the good is ours.

See the good that has happened in our lives.

Until now!

And what will continue to happen in the future!

See the good in living another day!

See the good in being physically and mentally fit.

See the good in continuously getting opportunities in our lives.

See the good that you have your family and loved ones around you.

There’s so much good in your life that you can continue to list them down.

However, it is up to you to see the good.

When you see the positive, good things happen in your life as well.

Simple as that.

The choice is yours!

See the good.

Not all days are the same.

Not all days are the same.

Not all the days are the same?
Do you agree?

Even though you execute day in-day out, even though you approach the day positively…

There are times when you won’t get the expected results from that day

There are days with such downs

There are times when you don’t feel the push

That’s natural

That’s bound to happen!

1. You have to accept that such things happen

2. Instead of taking it negatively, what you can do is, to approach the next day more positively, because you can make the next day better.

3. When you’re in love with the process, then such days don’t affect you much, because ultimately, you’re doing something that you like to do.

The Other Side of the Coin!

The Other Side of the Coin!

Heads or Tails!

There are always two sides to a coin!

Always!

However, the thing is…

Either or, you’re always on the either sides of it.

That is called having an opinion.

But here’s how the other side of the coin comes into play!

No matter the topic

There’s always another opinion either pro or against that topic.

Bottom line being, there are always two sides to the picture, two opinions, both think they are right in their own ways, both having polar opposite opinions and thoughts.

Although, like there are two sides to the same coin, here too, you need to respect the other person’s opinion, you need to have empathy for the other person and know that you have an opinion based on the knowledge you have and the same for the opposite party too.

You need to hear them out and take their opinions into picture and then conclude with your results.

You need to be Happy today! ❤️

You need to be Happy today! ❤️

Happiness today, not tomorrow is the goal.

You need to be happy today.

Happiness is lived, not earned or achieved.

How do you do that?
• Being grateful for what you have,
• Loving what you do and,
• Loving the process more than the destination.

Three minor tweaks to your day-to-day life and you can start being happy today!
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“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” – Jim Rohn

The Game Of Life #Part1

The Game Of Life #Part1

In the limitless number of thoughts that I have on a day-to-day basis; one of those thoughts resonated with the fact that life is nothing but a game, which you play and your choices and decisions lead to how you play that game and whether you’re good at it or not.

Thus, #TheGameOfLife

Thinking about life, I pen down my thoughts that relate with this and thus as you can notice below are a few that I think can change how we live life.

It’s a Good Day to have a Good Day!

It’s a Good Day to have a Good Day!

It’s A Good Day to have a Good Day!

That’s how you should approach your day!

That’s how you should approach your life!

No matter how the day’s events have unfolded, the mindset is that it’s such a good day to start having a good day!

When you change your perspective, when you change your thought process, things start changing!

Now you have a positive approach towards your day!

Sure, that’s micro, but that’s what leads to a macro positive approach as well.

With this thought process, you will feel good, irrespective of a few certain events which might have made it otherwise.

Above all, it’s always a good day when you get to live another day, ain’t it!?

What’s the Hype?

What’s the Hype?

Have you noticed, a few percent of people hype up a certain task or an item or a deed, to an extent where it spreads and spreads and now, from the mass perspective you either follow the trend or have the fear of missing out?

That’s the game of hype.

People don’t notice whether whatever is hyped is something they needed or wanted… But, if everyone is following it, then why should we miss out seems to become the general consensus.

Well, to be fair, sometimes, the hype is around good things towards which it becomes easier to get the following, usually in case of a cause.

However, more often than not, it isn’t. Thus, calling out the game.

The sooner people realize what they need or want and how they should distinguish that from the hype around everything, the better.

Instead of falling in the traps, it’d become so much easier to be decisive about everything once you know who you are.

#WhatsTheHype

Worry Less, Smile More

Worry Less, Smile More

Seconds turn into minutes and minutes into hours and just like that, the day is over.

A better part of that day is spent in worrying either about the past decisions or about future plans.

There’s just too much unnecessary worrying which takes place in our day-to-day.

In this chaos, what we forget is to smile! ☺

A smile to show our appreciation towards our day.

A smile to show our love towards our close ones.

A smile to everything that we could accomplish today.

A smile to live another day.

So why not live in the moment, think about the now, worry less and smile more.

After all, the more we smile, the more happy do we feel.

#WorryLessSmileMore

A Sudden Jolt of Inspiration

A Sudden Jolt of Inspiration

Sure, there are people who are inspired with their goals for life – know the ‘why’ of their life and and why are they pushing themselves more and more, every day of their lives.

But, for most of the people, not everyone is inspired that way in life. They walk in the cycle of life – where everything is the same. (and they could be happy doing that too, that’s not a problem)

However, in this walk of life, something you must have experienced, either by consuming something or experiencing something or by having met someone, you could have suddenly hit this jolt of inspiration within you.

Inspiration to achieve something – to do something – to work towards a cause – could be anything.

Now, what’s to be known is this – now that you feel inspired – understand the why.

Why do you feel inspired? What made you feel that way?

If it’s actually inspiration, and you feel positive about it – then use it practically in your life to achieve what you want.

Being inspired is such a blissful moment because now you won’t stop – now you just want to go on and achieve heights.

Take in this moment, cherish it and walk the path of life.

Be Honest!

Be Honest!

Be Honest…

To whom?

To others, of course. That is a given!

But, first…

You, yourself.

You need to be honest with yourself first.

If you aren’t, well, things start going off the rail thereon.

You know yourself better than anyone else would.

You know what you want. What you don’t. What you enjoy. What you don’t. Who you enjoy it with. With whom you don’t.

These answers lie within you.

The key is to be honest with yourself.

335 – #Tranquility

335 – #Tranquility

“A happy life consists in tranquillity of mind.” — Cicero.

We must find the calmness we desire within ourselves.

Yes, within ourselves.

In our minds!

How can we do that?

Well, we can use different processes as a catalyst to reach that point.

It could be walking in a park, meditating, listening to music, gazing at the sky, travelling somewhere, relaxing with the ocean as a view or anything else that gives you that composure.

You know where you’d have that peace of mind.

That peace of mind is long-term, not temporary, so think of a catalyst which you can rely on from time to time.

Once you have understood this calmness, once you have felt it, once you know the catalyst, then comes practice.

Practice keeping your mind at ease; in every easy and difficult situations.

That’s how the growth in life happens!

“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” — Wayne W. Dyer.

You know your Truth!

You know your Truth!

What’s your truth?

Only you know that.

No one else.

No one can.

A few people in your life have a 90% access to your life, for some it is 75%, for some it is 50% and for a lot more it’s less than that.

You know what that means?

No one knows you better than you, yourself.

People can speculate

People can judge

People can question

But none have a clear idea whatsoever.

They don’t care about your reasons or your explanations either…

So why waste time explaining anything!

It’s better to realize that…

No one but myself knows my truth

And I have to live with that.

Too Many Questions???

Too Many Questions???

Have you noticed…

No matter what you do…

No matter when you do…

No matter how you do…

Before or After…

Everyone around you have a lot of questions to ask!

These questions never end.

After a while, they just seem annoying at the most. That doesn’t matter though, because the questions never end.

And they are asked by everyone! Literally, everyone.

They could be out of genuine love and care

OR

Out of curiosity

OR

Out of jealousy

OR

Out of wanting to implement something for themselves

OR

There could a hundred reasons here!

The bottom line is, the questions never end.

What can you do then?

Well,

How about trying to ignore this noise and just concentrating on your journey!?

Seems difficult, but I’m sure, with practice, it can be done.

Do what you feel needs to be done, without worrying what the others think or ask or tell you to do!

And to those asking the questions?

Try focusing on yourself first, before focusing on others.

#TheGameOfLife

#LiveTheZazzLife

You are the Driver!

You are the Driver!

Quite often, we think what the future holds for us!

We have all done that, haven’t we?

Does that make sense though?

You are the Driver of your Life!

You drive your life to wherever you want to go, the destination may not be important, but the journey surely is.

The future holds nothing for you – you hold your future in your hands.

Your thoughts,

Your actions,

Your needs

Will drive the vehicle of your life to the future you create.

There’s nothing that will happen automatically for you, if you don’t do something about it first.

Now the question, whether you are a good driver or not, is another question in itself.

However, you’re the driver, that’s the truth.

Valuing what you have!

Valuing what you have!

Have you noticed something? There’s so much that we do, in our day-to-day lives, that we almost don’t realize the importance of so many of those things.

It’s always the same scenario – looking at the bigger picture, and looking at what’s bigger than what we currently have and then chasing that.

We don’t value the important things because we take it for granted. This doesn’t apply to just things, but to people, our friends, family, the work we do, the stuff we have, the food we eat, everything.

We realize the importance of the minute things when we don’t have them.

Having a Mindset like this also results in something like this – you’re always chasing, running after the next thing and not enjoying what you currently have. You’re not able to cherish that moment.

If you change that, then you’ll be happy now, with what you have, who you have and what you’re able to do.

Try valuing what you have, and realize it’s importance before its too late.

Do you deserve my time?

Do you deserve my time?

Ask yourself this question, when someone wants your time and you wonder, is it worth it?

With everything that you have and you don’t have yet, your asset is your time.

Your time’s valuable.

You can spend it wisely where you think it’ll be worth spending.

That time is spent on your growth, on your goals, with your loved ones. In the midst of this, you don’t want to unnecessarily spend your time where you don’t want to, right?

That’s the question you should keep asking yourself and that’s the topic of today’s blog post – Do you deserve my time?

When you’re spending your time on a task, on a job at hand, on a futuristic goal, whether someone is asking for your time or you spend it with someone – Does that thing or person deserve my time?

If yes, then you’ve already won that moment because you know you’re spending it wisely.

If the answer is no, you need to start working on it. You need to think of alternatives; what can you differently, how can you get rid of that task, how can you not meet that person, how can you cut your time with whom it’s not worth spending that time.

These are important questions – the ones that will make a difference in your life. For the good!

Think about it! #LiveTheZazzLife

Life is about experimentations!

Life is about experimentations!

Life is about experimentations, from one thing to another, whether you know it or not, it’s all about experimentations!

You never know what will work and what will not, you never know what might interest you and what might not.

There’s never a pre-defined answer for anything, there’s only a pre-conceived notion which is cleared after you experiment and find the answer on your own.

With life, you can never just stick with one thing – you might agree, it gets boring. Experimenting to find out new things, to grow, to evolve is the only solution.

#KeepExperimenting

PSA : The truth of turning ’25’

PSA : The truth of turning ’25’

Since I was 16, I’ve been hearing “Now you’re in the big game, on the verge of adulthood’.

Then at 18, it was “Welcome to Adulthood, how does it feel?”

Then at 21, it was “You’re now an adult, the teenage years are behind you now. Welcome to the real world.”

All these years I’ve been hearing, “25 is the shit, with real responsibilities and real troubles and decision making and what not” (you know the words)

Well, this is how the society operates. Every number has been assigned with some “hyped-up” shit which only stresses you out, but doesn’t really matter in the first place.

Well, today I turn 25 and I want to reveal the truth which applies to the previous age groups as well, this is for the now and in the future too.

Here’s the truth of turning 25!

Its okay to not have stuff figured out in your lives.

It’s okay to take your time.

It’s okay to disregard all questions asked to you, those will be asked regardless of what you do.

It’s okay to experiment in life.

It’s okay to not have ambitions in life.

You have time. A lot of it.

Of course, you have to utilize that time wisely, but the important point is that you have time. Let nobody tell you otherwise.

If you’re going to live for a 100 years, 25 is just 1/4th of it – now, that’s not delusion, that’s Optimism.

More importantly, the focus on this topic is because of happiness. Don’t let others fool you and tell you it’s a myth. It’s important that you’re happy with what you do in life. If you aren’t, keep switching, keep experimenting, don’t let the little things in life get you down!

You have your whole life ahead of you!

To, 25 and beyond! 🥂

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Well, there’s more!

On this day, I have uploaded my first video on my YouTube channel, it’s me talking about today’s topic on video

Here’s the link – https://youtu.be/CAehIHwN6rg

Do like and subscribe and let me know if it brings more value over video!

Thanks!

Has it become a habit?

Has it become a habit?

In life, some habits are good for us and some are not. Some bring value to us and some just drain us.

Sometimes, just repeating a thought or something you say or something you do automatically becomes a habit without you even realizing it.

But, what can you do?

Evaluate yourself at the end of the day – what did you do, why did you do it and is that being done repeatedly?

When you notice something becoming a habit, take a step back and evaluate whether it is impacting your life positively or negatively.

Its difficult at first, but once you learn to understand the difference, then you’re game.

#TheGameOfLife

How to find your Passion?

How to find your Passion?

Time and again, the question of your passion turns up, either in your mind or during your conversations.

What is my passion?

How do I answer whether I am passionate about this?

Most of the times, one’s not able to clearly state the answer for these questions.

The answer’s simple, yet complicated at the same time. Before we go on to find passion, I also think that there’s never just one thing when it comes to being passionate about something – there could be – but, usually there’s more.

Before you answer these questions for yourself, also understand to not limit yourself to just one thing and think this is my passion.

Life is about experimentations; you never know what strikes how and what doesn’t.

Coming back to finding passion, let’s define how any human being can tell what they’re passionate about.

Let’s break it down into the following categories :

A. Strengths

Usually, we list down what our strengths are and what are weaknesses are, and depending on that, we usually pick the strengths because we are good at those things, and follow that course and simultaneously improve ourselves at it too.

B. Love

Do you love doing that thing? Do you feel like you could do it all day, every day? Do you feel if you didn’t take a vacation or worked on weekends too, would it feel the same?

C. It’s Not Work

If there is ever a feeling that it feels like work and that there is a life beyond it too, then probably its not the same. On the other hand, if you feel it’s a part of your life, then you can immerse yourself into it and enjoy the process like how.

D. Retirement and Money out of the Picture

Most important of all points, to define passion and to realize if it’s truly your passion or not, take “retirement” and “money” out of the picture, would you still do it?

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If you can answer/relate to all of the above pointers, you can then define what you’re truly passionate about and whether what you think is your passion or not.

Now what you can do is, correlate these questions with whatever you’re doing now, and see if you’re able to answer for yourself or not. The answer is within you and no one can help you out with it except you.

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#FindYourPassion

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First, Yourself.

First, Yourself.

In this fast-moving life of ours, where we are chasing things, running after one thing and the next, we forget about ourselves.

Who’s going to care about yourself?

It is utmost necessary to take time out of your day, every day, to focus on your self – mentally, physically and spiritually.

It’s always you first and then everything else. Start your day and end your day with caring for yourself – and once you do that, notice the difference in your day-to-day.

You’ll be able to think differently, have a different perspective of what you want vs what you have, how would you like to give back etc – the entire game changes once you focus on your inner self.

#Care

The Value of Kindness

The Value of Kindness

What’s the value of a kind gesture?

It takes zero efforts to say something kind to another person – short, easy to speak and it’s not taking anything from you.

Yet, one kind gesture brings immense pleasure to the other person – you have just made their day, their month and you wouldn’t even realize it.

It might just be something that the person needed. Its impact would truly last a lifetime.

Be kind, spread kindness and witness the magic! ❤️

#KindnessOverEverything #KindnessKarma

Every Thought is important!

Every Thought is important!

Our human brain is in a constant thought process – it is said that, in a single day, you think upto 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a day.

Yes, that many thoughts!

Every thought has its own importance, said that, quite often there are thoughts that have no value to us at all. These unwanted thoughts are sometimes negative too – towards us, or towards someone else.

The problem is, when you think about such things a lot, and now the brain gets the signal to think accordingly.

What can you do? You can train your mind to think in a certain way, to think of certain topics and to not think of certain topics.

Think about what you think and act accordingly!

#ThinkAboutIt

It’s a New Day!

It’s a New Day!

No matter how your yesterday was, good or bad, today and every day is a new day.

A new day to restart, to refresh, to rethink your choices and your decisions and live an entirely new life the next day.

If the circumstances aren’t going your way, today you’ve the chance to change things around.

If the choices made yesterday, were a mistake, today you’ve the chance to make different choices.

Every day you have the chance to live a new day – it’s up to you, whether you want to or not.

#ANewDay

Do you wear shoes?

Do you wear shoes?

You know the thing about shoes, right?

All of us wear shoes, but the difference is that we wear different pair of shoes – different sizes, different designs, different brands and of course, comfort is different for all.

What does that tell you though?

Can you wear the same shoes as mine? What if it doesn’t fit you though?

In the same way, our journeys are different too – our paths are different, our goals are different, our thoughts are different and that’s the beauty of life.

When everything is different, there’s no reason as to why anyone’s journey or anyone’s accomplishments should be compared with someone else.

Let’s try focusing on wearing our shoes for once and not comparing them with someone else’s.

Communication is the Medium, not the Solution!

Communication is the Medium, not the Solution!

In any conversation which turns to a argument, one always thinks they are right.

However, we forget something!

What’s wrong for you is right for someone else and vice versa.

That means, both the parties think they are right, in their own way. So how do you solve this conundrum?

Is communication the solution for such a scenario? Would communicating the right way solve that issue?

In my opinion, communication is the medium to solve that situation, but the solution is empathy.

Without having empathy for the other person, there would be no two-way communication but only monologues and arguments.

Empathy is the key, which is often forgotten but needs to be instilled as values so – during such times of communication issues, you always think about the other person first, and react to the situation accordingly!

#empathy

What is success for you?

What is success for you?

What is success for you? That is for you to decide.

Let’s put it another way – what are your goals? What do you want to achieve?

Wouldn’t you feel successful when you accomplish your goals? Yet, our “society” bases success on the achievement of a few things and everyone follows that blindly.

That isn’t a problem at all – but, only when you actually want those things for yourself and if that’s the benchmark you’ve set for yourself.

The awareness of the reality of success is important and once you change the perspective on the topic, you start thinking differently.

#SuccessMindset

What’s Next?

What’s Next?

What’s Next? The question on our minds, at every point of time, no matter what we are doing.

This isn’t just about work, it involves everything we do, every day.

While we are doing something, we are constantly thinking, what are we going to do next!? 👀

You see the problem, right? In this quest for what’s next, we aren’t enjoying the present moment at all, we aren’t enjoying the process of whatever we are doing.

I realized this, and now I want to make amends. I want to feel this moment, I want to enjoy it and remember it.

#LiveInTheMoment

Your voice vs Other voices

Your voice vs Other voices

At any given point in time, there are various voices in your head – all saying different things.

However, only one out of all those voices is your own.

Difficult to understand what that means?

With the constant opinions and questions that we are surrounded with, the voices of our family, friends, society, colleagues – ultimately becomes our voice and we tend to forget what we want and what we are doing based on what someone else wants.

The difference is key, because what you actually want is also what’s going to make you happy!

Learning the difference will take time, but the awareness about it is important – Learn to know what your voice sounds like and only listen to it.

Pessimism v Optimism

Pessimism v Optimism

Why did William Jones say, “Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power”? What does it mean?

When you feel pessimistic in a situation, or towards something you want to do, you have already lost hope, you’ve already set a result in your mind which is surrounded with self-doubt. Before you’ve even started, you have given in already.

On the other hand, when you feel optimistic, when you feel positive, when you see it as half glass full, you’ve hope, you’ve the desire, no matter the circumstances, you will walk on the path you’ve set in your mind – now, that’s power.

That power comes from your thought, your hope, your desire, which was missing in the first scenario – which made you weak.

Simply put, when you feel/think pessimistic, it makes you weak and when you feel/think positive, it gives you power even before you’ve started.

#LiveTheZazzLife

The problem with expectations!

The problem with expectations!

The problem with expectations is that everyone, at some point of time, have some of them, with or without doing anything in the first place.

We “expect” someone to do something for us, just because and this is something that is in your head. Now looking at this from the other person’s point of view, he is not liable to do anything at all.

Another scenario is, when you specially do something, just to get something in return. Another form of an expectation. However, the deed was with motive and not from the heart, and yet again, if it isn’t reciprocated from the other side, it is you who feels disappointed.

In every scenario, it boils down to one person being disappointed in the entire transaction. Wouldn’t it be better if you stop expecting and if you just do? Wouldn’t everything be simpler?

Think about these “one-sided expectations” the next thing you expect something in your head!

What Songs Taught Us #13 – Girl in the Mirror by Bebe Rexha

What Songs Taught Us #13 – Girl in the Mirror by Bebe Rexha

• What Songs Taught Us #13 – Girl in the Mirror •


Song In Focus : Girl in the Mirror
Artist : Bebe Rexha

There is a perfect image set by the society – of your appearance / your looks / your behaviour – and you’ve to act according to it.

If you don’t fit the bill, you’re always anxious of your looks and that converts into constant thoughts in your mind – which tire you and weigh you down.

This song is a perfect example of this – it’s a song about self-acceptance – it tells you to be you, be yourself and stop trying to be like everyone else.

Songs are always inspirational, and if it teaches a good lesson along with some good music – then, go for it.

#WhatSongsTaughtUs

Change starts with You

Change starts with You

Everyone wants to change the world, everyone wants to leave a mark, yet we forget about our own flaws and the dire need to rectify those first.

Change starts with yourself first, keep growing, keep upgrading yourself to a better version of yourself, better than before – until you reach a level where you can now bring that change to others as well.

That process takes time, but it also comes from authenticity and the courage to first do it yourself before you do it for others.

In simple terms, walk the talk.

#ChangeStartsWithYou

Ikigai – the Japanese secret to a long and happy life (Book Review)

Ikigai – the Japanese secret to a long and happy life (Book Review)

Usually in the midst of reading a book, I’ve already chosen the next one to read and a similar situation occurred with this one, where I’d decided to read this one, books in advance.

Written by Hector García and Francesc Miralles, Ikigai is a brilliant read, based on a Japanese concept to living a long and happy life.

In the most basis terms, Ikigai is about finding something that you love, that also makes you happy, that is also commercially viable and that has a market for it. Well, it’s not all about professionalism, but applied to your personal life and doing something everyday so your day is occupied with things you like to do.

However, to understand our life, especially from the work point of view, Ikigai is an excellent concept to apply and learn the answers we were looking for.

When you’re happy, when you love what you’re doing, you’re able to do it on a daily basis and for an endless amount of time – the more happy you are, the more fulfilled you feel, and the longer you’re able to live with no boredom/ emptiness / hollow feelings to think about. The concept of retirement doesn’t exist in Ikigai, because if you aren’t doing anything, then what are you doing with your life.

Well, if you’re looking for answers, especially from a different perspective than what is seen or taught in the West, then you should definitely pick this one up and understand life from a different angle to what you’re originally living.

The book is a definite gamechanger, if you want it to be. #RTHReviews

What’s the most important thing in life?

What’s the most important thing in life?

The most important thing in your life is to be yourself.

Being yourself keeps you authentic, keeps you self-aware about who you are and what do you want, and more importantly, keeps you happy.

Through the platform of Social Media, people are creating a different image of themselves, flossing, flaunting just to impress others, and to create that social image.

In reality, being miserable because they don’t know who they are anymore.

Being yourself keeps you sane, keeps you real and keeps you trustful.

You are unique in your own way, your characteristics are your strengths and they define who you are – instead of faking emotions in the virtual or the real world, face who you are and be proud of who you are.

#BeYourself

It’s not in your control!

It’s not in your control!

There are two situations in our lives, one where things are in our control and the other where they aren’t.

The problem arises when we start overthinking about those things that aren’t in our control and worry about their effect on our lives.

We overthink, we worry, we try to prepare for events beforehand and yet all of it is in vain – why – because it’s not in our control.

If we spend that time on ourselves, on our mindset, on our thoughts, on our actions, on our behaviour – the things which are in our control – we’d be better off because we are now in control, not letting the external factors affect us at all, no matter their consequences on us.

One change in our thought process and it can do wonders for us! #StopWorrying #StopOverthinking

What do I mean by ‘Becoming a better version of yourself’?

What do I mean by ‘Becoming a better version of yourself’?

To become a better version of yourself means you have to grow/ you have to level up – and, for that to happen, you need to change / you need to learn / you need to have a growth mindset.

If you think you know it all, if you think you don’t have to learn anything anymore, if you have a fixed mindset, then how do you think you’re going to reach the next level of your life.

The concept is simple, the process is everlasting, however, you come out of it as a better person everytime!

Quite honestly, that should be the daily goal and we’re setting that for ourselves, not for anyone else, because only we are going to benefit from that mentality. #ActOnIt

Ruler of Your Destiny!

Ruler of Your Destiny!

You are the ruler of your destiny – you get to decide when do you want to start your journey, or if you’d like to change your paths and begin the journey for another dream.

Goals change, dreams change, people change.

What if you were doing something for a long time and suddenly you decide that your interests lie elsewhere.

Does the “society” stop you from doing that?

There’s no age limits as to when one should start, when one can change their plans, when one can start planning a new dream and focusing on that.

As C. S. Lewis has said, “You’re never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”.

Whatever makes you happy, you do that – doesn’t matter how young or old you are – there are no society benchmarks to conquer.

Believer by Imagine Dragons – What Songs Taught Us #12

Believer by Imagine Dragons – What Songs Taught Us #12

• What Songs Taught Us #12 – Believer •

Song In Focus : Believer
Artist : Imagine Dragons

Listening to the song makes you think that someone is sharing their story through the song, which may be true, but it definitely has a deeper meaning to it.

It portrays the pain in every person’s life and the experiences that one gets to learn from those pains.

Every experience makes you look at things differently, changes you a little, and at the same time, makes you better than before.

This doesn’t mean one should look for more pains in their lives, but it means that instead of looking at the negative aspects in those situations, look at the positive too – when if you wouldn’t have experienced that, you wouldn’t have learnt something at all.

Give it a listen and see whether you can relate to this lesson or not! #WhatSongsTaughtUs

Understanding the importance of Mindset

Understanding the importance of Mindset

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” – Buddha

Mindset is Everything.
Whether it’s your routine, or your work, or your personal life, or your goals, your dreams, everything revolves around your mindset.

You need to have the right kind of mindset to move forward in life, to set the right rhythm amongst all the phases of your life, to be happy/ satisfied.

That process starts from your thoughts. Your thoughts define everything in your life.

What you think, how you think, why you think – its all important – it sets the baseline – it defines your actions and your executions.

Ultimately, you become what you think.

Which is why it’s said that you need to have control of your mind, control of your thoughts, control of that thought structure – Mindset is the most important thing in your life.

Changing your Attitude

Changing your Attitude

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change their future by merely changing their attitude.” – Oprah Winfrey

Once people understand this, then they can make wonders happen for themselves!

What you think is what you become!

Your attitude towards yourself, your work, your goals, your relationships define your present and your future.

If your present is not what you want, you have the opportunity to make your future better! How? By changing yourself – by changing your attitude towards everything – by changing your perspective!

It takes time – it needs practice – you make mistakes – but that’s the process with everything, isn’t it?

So not why take the matter into your own hands and write your own future?

#LiveTheZazzLife

Switching off and on the features of your life!

Switching off and on the features of your life!

Its time to switch on and switch off some of your life features too, daily.

Always be Kind to everyone around you, everyone. Kindness wins in the long-term.

Have empathy towards others. You don’t know what’s going on in their lives – you have no idea why they are doing what they are doing, you have no idea why they are saying what they are saying. There’s always another perspective.

Judging others never helps anyone and always wastes your time too. It’s time to grow up, stay in your lane and focus on yourself. Live and let live.

Most importantly, be grateful for everything that you have. Gratitude even for the smallest thing makes you realize it’s importance!

Switching on and off a few features of your life makes such a huge difference – you’ll be glad now and in the future that you made these changes!

5 Things to Give Up for a Positive Mindset

5 Things to Give Up for a Positive Mindset

While there are positive enforcements to add to your day-to-day, there are also negative enforcements which empower our daily lives and push our mind towards more negative thoughts and thus, a negative mindset.

Working on them and ultimately getting rid of them is the ultimate solution for the healthy mindset you need.

Here are top 5 Things to Give Up, which will definitely make a change in your life –

  • Complaining

– We often complain about the tiniest of things, thus having a problem if it’s not how you wanted instead of being grateful that you have that or you get to do that, even if its not what you imagined.
– Complaining overpowers most of our day and we end up complaining about most things we have or do rather than seeing the good in anything and everything.

  • Negative Self-Talk

– We often let others make our decisions and influence our thoughts, which unfortunately ends with their voice becoming our inner voice.
– Which ultimately leads to you doubting yourself, thinking you are not capable of something, or you cannot accomplish something you want.
– Unkind thoughts towards yourself lead the day, which inturn leads to negative actions/ results.

  • Living In The Past

– Pondering over our past actions, thinking we should have done something differently or a decision taken differently creates problems in the present and the future.
– The past cannot be changed, or altered, you have to live with every decision you make, with the path you take and live with it and not let it falter your future.

  • Over-Thinking

– One of the biggest things to start handling and ultimately giving up is over-thinking.
– Over-Thinking about what to do, how to go about anything, thinking about things not in our control – all of it creates problems in our mindset, on a micro and macro level.

  • Listening to People’s Opinions

– For everything you do, either before or after, everyone around you has an “opinion” to share.
– Usually, most of these opinions don’t matter nor are they constructive. They only hinder our growth and our decision-making.
– Listening to People’s opinions should be a priority when it comes to giving up things for a positive and a healthy mindset.

None of them can be accomplished in a day, and even when you are aware, it takes time to make it a part of your lifestyle. Practice, practice and practice is the answer – work on them one by one and let the change happen.

You decide your Destiny!

You decide your Destiny!

Your actions in the present decide your future.

What you decide now is what you will become in the future.

Every decision matters.

It’s not about succeeding in every decision you take, but being satisfied with your decisions because they will form your future.

What you want to be or what you don’t want to be is up to you – you decide that!

No one else has that power, even if you think otherwise!

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

#LiveTheZazzLife

Rocky – What Movies Taught Us #6

Rocky – What Movies Taught Us #6

• What Movies Taught Us #6 – Rocky •Movie In Focus : Rocky
Starring Sylvester Stallone

Most of us have seen Rocky or at least, heard about the movie or the character… So without going into the specifics of the storyline, here are a few things to focus on –

  • You need to have a definite goal in mind.

Only when you have a ‘definite’ goal to focus on, then you know it’s process and the way to accomplish it. Without a set target, the efforts would be in vain!

  • With the goal in mind, and the mindset needed, you need to put in the work daily.

Hard-work, efforts and daily practice, the three factors needed to achieve anything you want.

  • Any and all dreams are achievable

There’s no goal that isn’t achievable and that cannot be set as your target – or so others might say. However, if it’s on your mind, then you should pursue or try pursuing it, no matter what – that’s the beauty of a dream.

#WhatMoviesTaughtUs

What Songs Taught Us #9 – Sick Boy

What Songs Taught Us #9 – Sick Boy

• What Songs Taught Us #9 – Sick Boy •

Song In Focus : Sick Boy
Artist : The Chainsmokers

According to the artists, “Sick Boy” is a reflection of their generation and the struggles with finding identity on social media.

Drew said: “This song is kind about discovering your self-identity while living in a world where everyone posts everything they do and projects kind of a curated reality on Instagram. And that’s how we interact with one another.”

A lot of people front themselves on social media, and are living two identities, the real one and the virtual one. To garner followers and likes, they’ll portray any image they want to and post whatever gets them that engagement.

The wise thing is to beware of the fake ones and not be influenced by what they say. There are some authentic ones too, so it’s not all bad!

However, be self-aware and do what you’d like to, or want to, and not be influenced by someone else and form your own identity, at the end.

Don’t doubt yourself, and don’t anticipate people’s opinions on the actions you haven’t taken yet.

#WhatSongsTaughtUs

What Songs Taught Us #7 – Kal Ho Na Ho

What Songs Taught Us #7 – Kal Ho Na Ho

• What Songs Taught Us #7 – Kal Ho Na Ho •


Song: Kal Ho Na Ho
Artist: Sonu Nigam

With every breath we take, in every moment of our lives, there’s change.

Time is ticking!

Sometimes there’s light, sometimes there’s darkness – literally and metaphorically too.

So, every year, every month, every day, every hour, every minute, live life to the fullest because you don’t know whether there’s a tomorrow.

Live like today’s the last! ❤️

#WhatSongsTaughtUs

Each Day to its Own!

Each Day to its Own!

“Each day provides its own gifts.” – Marcus Aurelius

Each day brings it’s set of gifts in one’s life – in the form of – learnings, mistakes, decisions, achievements, failures and more.

For each day is its own and it’s gifts make a better tomorrow, building a better version of ourself in the process.

It’s not wrong to look at each day as a new day, as a fresh start because it allows you to do different, be different and re-build if you want to – that’s a gift in its own way!

3 Things I learnt while flying!

3 Things I learnt while flying!

I love flying, and whoever knows me, knows that the window seats are my thing.

No matter what’s the duration, I’ll be at my seat, with no disturbances from others, and get the best sunrise/sunset views from the top (I’ve some good pictures).

For me, flying is the best time to ponder over my thoughts. Look into the atmosphere, open up to yourself and you’ll realize how deep you can think and how effective it is.

One such instance happened the last time I flew, when I was in my thought process and something amazing struck me.

And as I pondered over it, I went deep into that thought and as an outcome,
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👉🏻 I’ve come up with three amazing lessons that can be learnt while flying!

A. Problems from the Top

All of us have problems on a daily basis, day-to-day micro issues or macro problems.

We worry about them, all the time.

However, have you noticed, while flying, when you’re at top, looking down from the sky and all you can see is land, lights and ocean.

When you look down from that macro perspective, you tend to relate it with life, how long your life is and how we let tiny, minute issues affect our life, affect our day and probably make us unnecessarily stressful.

B. Materialism from the Top

This seems to be an irony, considering you’re in an airplane. But, hear me out!

We are surrounded with materialistic items around us, either the ones that we have, or the ones we are chasing, or the ones that others have that we now want.

Could be anything, you know what materialistic means, right?

However, when you are x amount of feet up in the air, when none of those things are around you, or can be seen by you, have you ever thought how important are those things in your life?

All you can see from the top is the nature, the sky, the sun, the land and the ocean.

Not even humans.

Just these things. The ones that actually surround us.

Everything else just seems the same from the top.

C. Don’t worry about the things that are not in your control

Have you ever realized that, while flying, your life isn’t in your hands at all? Your pilot is in control of the flight, and thus your life too.

Every time there’s turbulence, everyone starts freaking out, but is it in your control?

You have to trust someone else, in this case, the pilot to get things under control.

In the same way, there are a lot of things in life out of control, where we can’t do anything about it, there’s no point stressing out about it. You can simply trust the process, trust the universe, trust the person who has the control.

//Are you able to relate to any of these pointers?

//Do you have any other thoughts when you’re flying?