Until you don’t stumble upon the path of self-improvement, you never know you needed to improve.
Until you don’t stumble upon the path of positivity, you never know you needed it.
Until you don’t stumble upon the path of growth, you never know you wanted to grow.
This is such an interesting game of choice and chance.
Sometimes you stumble upon something by chance, and sometimes by choice.
Either ways, if you get the chance to stumble upon it, appreciate it.
It’s a path that you always wanted to walk on, but never knew you wanted to.
Have you ever rolled the dice?
The probability is, you have.
A dice, in the form of a cube, has six numbers, from 1-6, one on each side of it.
You try rolling for a number that you wish for.
You try harder.
You try different styles.
However, when it leaves your hand and falls on the board, you never know what number is going to come up until its on the board.
You might appreciate the outcome or you might get disappointed by it.
That dice has such a metaphorical meaning though.
Every step we take in our life, has a different outcome.
We don’t know that outcome.
Until it happens.
We roll with life, wishing for something to happen, but sometimes it ain’t in our hands.
Again, whether we appreciate that outcome or be disappointed by it is up to us.
But at least, we tried, right?
When you walk that path of upgrading yourself, a lot of things start changing in your life.
Although, on this path, sometimes things don’t work out too.
No one is perfect.
At such a point in life, remember to not be too hard on yourself.
Because, that makes it worse.
That will make you more negative.
Accept that sometimes things are out of your control or it was not meant to be.
That is (one of) the lesson(s) you learn when you walk upon the path of self-improvement.
You’re always in control of your thoughts, your actions, your behaviour, your emotions, your habits, your goals and your happiness.
There’s always an external factor in play, an external factor – at times bigger than you and your life.
Can you let it influence you or your thoughts or your emotions?
Once you set the baseline, that I’m the one in control of my thoughts, then no external factor can influence your thought process.
That same logic is then applied to your emotions, your habits, more importantly, to your happiness as well.
How do you be in control?
With practice. Understanding the difference when you are in control and when you are not.
Understanding the factors that bring the change in you.
Pushing yourself everytime you notice that change.
That requires self-awareness as well as the will power that you do want to do so.
The power to bring change comes from within.
It’s always up to you, and remember that you’re always in control.
We are always in a rush to chase something or the other in life.
And, we want it now! Not later, now!
If you put in the efforts or the work today, the results should appear by tomorrow! That’s become the common mentality now.
We have forgotten the word ‘patience.’
“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” – Aristotle.
In order to enjoy life,
in order to enjoy what we want or need,
in order to enjoy the process
– we need to start being patient.
That’s the only answer with which we can be
enjoy life and
If not, then there would be just the rush of wanting or chasing one thing after the other, not having the desired results, being left with disappointments and unhappiness.
The choice is yours – be patient with life and enjoy everything that you do or just the opposite.
Have you noticed, a few percent of people hype up a certain task or an item or a deed, to an extent where it spreads and spreads and now, from the mass perspective you either follow the trend or have the fear of missing out?
That’s the game of hype.
People don’t notice whether whatever is hyped is something they needed or wanted… But, if everyone is following it, then why should we miss out seems to become the general consensus.
Well, to be fair, sometimes, the hype is around good things towards which it becomes easier to get the following, usually in case of a cause.
However, more often than not, it isn’t. Thus, calling out the game.
The sooner people realize what they need or want and how they should distinguish that from the hype around everything, the better.
Instead of falling in the traps, it’d become so much easier to be decisive about everything once you know who you are.
Have you noticed…
No matter what you do…
No matter when you do…
No matter how you do…
Before or After…
Everyone around you have a lot of questions to ask!
These questions never end.
After a while, they just seem annoying at the most. That doesn’t matter though, because the questions never end.
And they are asked by everyone! Literally, everyone.
They could be out of genuine love and care
Out of curiosity
Out of jealousy
Out of wanting to implement something for themselves
There could a hundred reasons here!
The bottom line is, the questions never end.
What can you do then?
How about trying to ignore this noise and just concentrating on your journey!?
Seems difficult, but I’m sure, with practice, it can be done.
Do what you feel needs to be done, without worrying what the others think or ask or tell you to do!
And to those asking the questions?
Try focusing on yourself first, before focusing on others.
You must have noticed this, in conversations with friends and family, or even with colleagues, the conversations usually tend to revolve around work.
It’s a phase of life we are in, where everyone is interested with what’s going on with the other person’s work life and whatever you get to learn from that conversation then.
Now, in such a scenario, if you don’t like what you do, if you aren’t passionate about it, then how do you think will you talk about it time and again?
However, this also indicates something important here – it’s an indicator for you to understand how much you love what you do and if, you need to change that.
Talking about work is something so marvelous, it’s one-third of your life (or more in totality) – if you don’t enjoy what you do, it’s time to change that because everything is in your hands.
You know the thing about shoes, right?
All of us wear shoes, but the difference is that we wear different pair of shoes – different sizes, different designs, different brands and of course, comfort is different for all.
What does that tell you though?
Can you wear the same shoes as mine? What if it doesn’t fit you though?
In the same way, our journeys are different too – our paths are different, our goals are different, our thoughts are different and that’s the beauty of life.
When everything is different, there’s no reason as to why anyone’s journey or anyone’s accomplishments should be compared with someone else.
Let’s try focusing on wearing our shoes for once and not comparing them with someone else’s.
What’s Next? The question on our minds, at every point of time, no matter what we are doing.
This isn’t just about work, it involves everything we do, every day.
While we are doing something, we are constantly thinking, what are we going to do next!? 👀
You see the problem, right? In this quest for what’s next, we aren’t enjoying the present moment at all, we aren’t enjoying the process of whatever we are doing.
I realized this, and now I want to make amends. I want to feel this moment, I want to enjoy it and remember it.
The problem with expectations is that everyone, at some point of time, have some of them, with or without doing anything in the first place.
We “expect” someone to do something for us, just because and this is something that is in your head. Now looking at this from the other person’s point of view, he is not liable to do anything at all.
Another scenario is, when you specially do something, just to get something in return. Another form of an expectation. However, the deed was with motive and not from the heart, and yet again, if it isn’t reciprocated from the other side, it is you who feels disappointed.
In every scenario, it boils down to one person being disappointed in the entire transaction. Wouldn’t it be better if you stop expecting and if you just do? Wouldn’t everything be simpler?
Think about these “one-sided expectations” the next thing you expect something in your head!
What is it that you love to do?
Anything in which you find happiness?
Anything in which you find peace?
Anything in which you find satisfaction?
There’s no restrictions with what you can do or with what you should do – you should never ever settle!
Push beyond your limits – but, do the things you love.
Then, it doesn’t feel like work, it’s a purpose that you’re able to deliver on a daily basis – and there’s never a better feeling in life.
Why wouldn’t you want to do that?
There are times in one’s life when they think something’s not working out, in whatever phase of life, or are probably stuck with something that isn’t allowing them to grow.
At such times, does the point of change come up, when you have to ask yourself what kind of change are you looking for?
To add to that, even though it is about taking a decision and moving forward in that direction, the process is still difficult – because it requires patience and efforts to actually change and to get on a better path that will improve your life.
During these moments in life, you have to ask yourself these two questions – what kind of change are you looking for and is it the kind of change that you’re willing to accept?
The answer’s always within you!
There are two situations in our lives, one where things are in our control and the other where they aren’t.
The problem arises when we start overthinking about those things that aren’t in our control and worry about their effect on our lives.
We overthink, we worry, we try to prepare for events beforehand and yet all of it is in vain – why – because it’s not in our control.
If we spend that time on ourselves, on our mindset, on our thoughts, on our actions, on our behaviour – the things which are in our control – we’d be better off because we are now in control, not letting the external factors affect us at all, no matter their consequences on us.
One change in our thought process and it can do wonders for us! #StopWorrying #StopOverthinking
To become a better version of yourself means you have to grow/ you have to level up – and, for that to happen, you need to change / you need to learn / you need to have a growth mindset.
If you think you know it all, if you think you don’t have to learn anything anymore, if you have a fixed mindset, then how do you think you’re going to reach the next level of your life.
The concept is simple, the process is everlasting, however, you come out of it as a better person everytime!
Quite honestly, that should be the daily goal and we’re setting that for ourselves, not for anyone else, because only we are going to benefit from that mentality. #ActOnIt
You are the ruler of your destiny – you get to decide when do you want to start your journey, or if you’d like to change your paths and begin the journey for another dream.
Goals change, dreams change, people change.
What if you were doing something for a long time and suddenly you decide that your interests lie elsewhere.
Does the “society” stop you from doing that?
There’s no age limits as to when one should start, when one can change their plans, when one can start planning a new dream and focusing on that.
As C. S. Lewis has said, “You’re never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”.
Whatever makes you happy, you do that – doesn’t matter how young or old you are – there are no society benchmarks to conquer.
Why is failure looked down upon by the “society”?
Failure makes us who we are – it makes us grow and improve as a better version of yourself – it makes us learn from our mistakes – it upgrades us to a new level.
Without failure, we wouldn’t grow to a higher level – we wouldn’t feel accomplished if we hadn’t failed in the first place.
That’s the beauty of failure – a few people get to experience it – but without it, we wouldn’t be where we are today.
Then, why is it looked down upon – it shouldn’t be – we should we proud to have experienced it – because it was necessary to overcome it to become who we are.
Imagine how much of this time is spent by you thinking about the past.
About your past decisions, about the steps taken, how you would’ve done something differently.
Its so easy to think about all of this – it’s easy because you can only waste your time thinking about it, you cannot change anything.
That wasted time is taking time out of your present, and that pondering over isn’t letting you decide your present and your future.
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” – Will Rogers
What’s gone is gone, let’s focus on today, let’s focus on making tomorrow better, let’s focus on making the changes that we can make today that will form our future and also be grateful for every decision previously taken, that has brought us to where we are today.
What makes you happy?
What do you feel passionate about?
What is it that you’re willing to do that makes you feel satisfied?
If you can answer that, you should definitely do that.
We’re here to live one life. Why not make it worthwhile?
Why settle down for something we don’t like or why struggle?
Sure, the other path might be difficult, may have obstacles but wouldn’t the journey be amazing – because it is what you love? Wouldn’t you be happy every single moment, every single day?
You have a choice.
It’s up to you.
Do more of what makes you happy.
I legit sucked at writing anything. My marks in school clearly defined that. Whether it came to writing a formal letter to our School Principal or caption writing for the clients, it was difficult to cope with, every time.
However, when I knew what to write, along with a lot of practice and mistakes, you can improve at anything and I improved at this.
After 250+ blog posts, various articles and ‘n’ number of posts created on my various profiles, I’ve finally overcome it.
Next on my list is to overcome my fear of looking at the camera lens and speaking!
All you require is a bit of confidence, practice and not to look at others and get worried with what they are doing! Also, remember that they started way before you did.
Is there anything that’s on your mind?
Whether you have a vision for the future, or you have set a massive goal for yourself, or you’re doing anything out of the ordinary – it always seems a bit difficult at first, in your head.
But, do you know that it always seems impossible in other people’s minds – very rarely would you get a supportive opinion, in situations like these.
Usually, its statements like, “it’s not possible at all” or “why are you wasting your time on this?”
As Nelson Mandela clearly states, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
It’s only when the job is done, when the mission is accomplished, does it seem possible to others.
Always remember that you need to have that will-power, that mindset, that hunger within you to get it done – you cannot expect it from others.
You do you!
All of us have dreams, some achieve them, some are in the process of achieving it and some forget about them!
Let’s discuss those who have forgotten their dreams and let’s question the why.
Why have some of those people forgotten their dreams?
Why have they just let it go?
Did they try and fail and then let it go? – That scenario isn’t bad, it’s good on the contrary – that you tried.
If you just let it go – was it because
• you weren’t confident with yourself
• you didn’t get enough support
• people would have judged you had you failed
• parental pressure of getting into something else
Yes, there are situations, there are circumstances that one may not avoid – sometimes one is forced – but those who persist, and fight for their dreams, feel more satisfied than if they hadn’t.
All dreams are achievable.
Even if the end goal isn’t achieved for some reason, the process is just as beautiful. Plus you’re happy with no regrets – that you tried – you followed your dreams.
Then why wouldn’t you?
In every situation, you have two options – focus on the positive or focus on the negative.
Most of the times, we look at the downside – this shouldn’t have happened with me/ why did this happen / am I the only one / what more can I do/ why am I not getting anything
This leads to unhappiness, self-doubt, fixed mindset, negative thoughts, negative actions.
How can you be happy then? How can you have more? How can you grow?
There’s only one answer.
• Focus on the Positive •
You can learn to always see the good in situations, in people. You can cherish that you get the opportunity to do anything in the first place. You can be grateful for the things you have. You can be happy with everything that life has given you.
You have the power to do all this.
Focusing on the positive allows you to do this.
It breathes a new life into you, a new mindset, fresher thoughts, positive actions, a new you.
Why wouldn’t anyone want that?
The choice is yours.
“The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” – Muhammad Ali
What does that mean?
Well, for one, when you grow and when you keep bettering yourself, you also grow a new perspective to everything.
You start looking at things differently, you have a different viewpoint to everything than you did before.
However, it happens when you keep upgrading to a better version of yourself.
That also comes from a growth mindset.
You constantly want to level up, be a better person than before, do things better than before.
In due process, you are evolving and every day, every month and every year of your life is different than before.
If you don’t find that change, then most probably, you are standing in the same place you already were, in the same level of your life, and possibly, without any growth. That’s the fixed mentality, where you’re afraid to move on and want to be where you are forever.
Its time to switch on and switch off some of your life features too, daily.
Always be Kind to everyone around you, everyone. Kindness wins in the long-term.
Have empathy towards others. You don’t know what’s going on in their lives – you have no idea why they are doing what they are doing, you have no idea why they are saying what they are saying. There’s always another perspective.
Judging others never helps anyone and always wastes your time too. It’s time to grow up, stay in your lane and focus on yourself. Live and let live.
Most importantly, be grateful for everything that you have. Gratitude even for the smallest thing makes you realize it’s importance!
Switching on and off a few features of your life makes such a huge difference – you’ll be glad now and in the future that you made these changes!
“I wanted to, but the circumstances didn’t allow me to…”
Isn’t it easier to blame everything on circumstances?
We all do it.
It’s more difficult to not let exterior events or actions hinder our progress and not let it stop from achieving what we set out to do.
The opposite is easier.
Well, the tough minds who do achieve, never blame anything or never even think of it.
Once they have the target in mind, they’ll achieve it or try achieving it, no matter what!
The mindset is important – if you want to do, then do and not let anything stop you.
What do you want to do?
Your actions in the present decide your future.
What you decide now is what you will become in the future.
Every decision matters.
It’s not about succeeding in every decision you take, but being satisfied with your decisions because they will form your future.
What you want to be or what you don’t want to be is up to you – you decide that!
No one else has that power, even if you think otherwise!
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
All of us have our journeys, our goals, our path on which we are currently walking! There’s something on our minds that we want to achieve – either an accomplishment of a task or checking off a goal.
Although, when things don’t work out, we are disappointed, we are in deep thoughts of the reasons why it didn’t work out, we ponder over our decisions and if we could do it all over again!
However, what if life had other plans for us? What if that path wasn’t the right one for you? What if things not working out was a stroke of luck?
That is what Dalai Lama said, “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
Of course, you can’t sit around and think of the ‘What Ifs’, but you can have a positive perspective over life that maybe things didn’t work out for the right reasons and maybe you need to walk another path to reach where you want to be.
To clarify, you might know your true calling but the path you thought was right may not have been the right one, which is why things didn’t work out the way you expected them to; and now it’s time to revisit that and think how you could do it differently!