Question the Default!

Question the Default!

As we live each day of our lives, as we grow, as a society we also become conditioned to do the same kind of things and in the same behavior.

Everyone is programmed to do the same thing in the cycle of life. Every age group is defined by the same set of responsibilities and same set of questions and requirements and pressure.

The bigger issue is everyone follows it tiptoe without blinking an eye.

To question the default is becoming an outcast in a group and the thought of doing so becomes scarier for an individual.

However, once you question the default is when life takes a turn for you.

That is the moment when you start noticing the pattern, you start observing the behavior, you start asking the right type of questions and you jump into an ocean of the unknown.

It gives you a thrill and also opens your eyes to the reality, where you realize things can be done differently, things can be done according to how you want them to be done, by you, for you.

No asks, no requirements, no pressure.

You now set a whole new pattern for you, a whole new thought process, you’re now the outcast in a group of outcasts, with all eyes on you, but you enjoy it, because it now gives you joy and a cheer you never had before.

All this happens, just by questioning the default.

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The mind can be a Wall or a Door

The mind can be a Wall or a Door

Believe it or not, your mind is powerful enough to either be a wall to you or a door. What sounds better?

Here’s how you can understand that statement.

Either the mind controls you and everything about you OR you control your mind and you mould it into how you want to run your life.

When the mind controls you, when you are not in control of your thoughts, your actions and everything else, the mind can become a wall to you.

It can stop you from doing things you’d like to do, it can become a hindrance where you feel you’re not capable of doing something or those times when you leave things to chance.

Whereas, how your mind can be a door to you is exactly in the opposite manner.

Here, when you’re in control, you’re the master of your mind, you control your thoughts, your emotions and your actions, what happens is when you want things to happen, instead of being the hindrance, your mind is rather the supporter, or a doorway to helping you out in your journey, your endeavours.

When it’s time, when it happens, maybe you realise to see the wall or the doorway, maybe then you understand this better, or maybe you choose to take the control right now itself and not let the wall appear at all, or even if it appears, you know that it’s disguised in the form of a doorway.

The voice leads to conclusion!

The voice leads to conclusion!

Most of the times, with most of our situations in life, we often jump to conclusions without even trying.

The conclusions that doing something would result in a certain way.

The conclusions that choosing another path has an outcome of a certain kind.

Now, you, personally haven’t tried and experimented with any of this!

Then, where do these conclusions come from?

There’s a voice within you that speaks of these conclusions!

That constantly speaks that why try this when you can avoid that unnecessary outcome.

Whose voice is that though?

Here’s what happens… usually…

One, we never know about the unnecessary outcome because its just one side of the coin and you never know until you try. You cannot avoid every situation because of the outcome.

Secondly, and more importantly, that voice we think is ours, isn’t actually ours.

Let me explain!

The voice inside your head is an amalgamation of everything you’ve been taught, every conversation you’ve had and every person you’ve met.

Quite often, what people do themselves and what they tell you forms into this voice in your head.

So, when this voice speaks to you, it isn’t truly yours or what you want, but people’s opinions and what they’d think when you do something is what’s embedded into this voice in your head.

Now this voice is what ultimately and unfortunately, leads you to these conclusions.

Are you carrying a heavy backpack?

Are you carrying a heavy backpack?

I have two questions for you.

Are you carrying a backpack?

And

How heavy is it?

How about two more questions?

Do you have past memories, past worries, opinions and judgments troubling you?

Is that causing the heaviness?

Anything of the past that we are holding on to forms into this backpack that we have to carry throughout.

Two things happen here…

A. The more you hold on to, the heavier it becomes. That results into you slowing down and not being able to move forward as you’d want.

B. Until you don’t realise you’re carrying this backpack, you won’t be able to get rid of it.

Before you move on, ask yourself these questions, just wonder about them for a minute because this one minute could be changing your life.

Then vs Now – What’s changed over time?

Then vs Now – What’s changed over time?

In this quest of understanding and becoming self aware about who I am, what my voice is, what my strengths and weaknesses are, how my thoughts amd actions affect me and others around me, how my habits affect me, I was in a retrospective mode thinking about all of these things.

Not just that, but who I was before, who I am now, the old me, the new me, how I have been able to pin point certain areas of my life that needed a change and then worked on it and yet, there’s so much more to work on.

This is the journey of self-improvement and everyday I’m grateful that I get to improve myself or at least become aware of what I need to improve one bit at a time.

However, doing just that made me create this list of my THEN vs NOW and what’s changed me over time.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Well, the more I learn, the more I want to share.

Not just my personal growth. But, how you can grow too, how you can improve too, how you can change your life too.

A list of such kind helps in showing that if I can change, then you can change too and if this can inspire you to take a step in that direction, then why not?